How to Handle Accidentally Sleeping with a Family Member?

Artwork by Anthony Gonzales 



Dear Walter:
I want to first start off by saying I love your writing and continue to do you.  Secondly, I just want to say that I have a dilemma with something. For starters, I am a reformed hoe and I got that way because I think I slept with one of my nephews.  Way-minute, I did not know he was my nephew at the time because it didn’t come out that he was my second to the oldest brother’s child. Let me give you the quick sneak peak. We met online (Grindr or A4A) and I was only after a good blow job and jerk session. We meet, he cute, about 12 younger than I, but it was cool. He has a big hairy dick like I like it and he was an excellent kisser. Now, mind you this happened 8 years ago. Now two years ago, I get a disturbing call asking me why I didn’t tell him he had a son and I [told] him I was not in the room when the baby was conceived so he hung up. Now my new nephew mother, whom I have not seen in about 25 years, calls me and tell me that her son (my nephew) wants to meet his people because a recent DNA test confirms that her present husband (the only father he has known) is not his father. I said well, “Girl send me the picture and I will pass it along to the family.” 

And when I saw the pic my face dropped and my heart sank. It was the younging [sic] with the big hairy dick that has been beating up my throat for about year and then we went our separate ways.
Question:  Should I say something about the year long lust affair that happened at the time almost 12 years ago? Or should I just play it cool and chalk it up to the game?
-All in the Family
Dear All in the Family:
I let this question cool in my inbox for a month because I didn’t quite know how to respond. And now that I have clarity, here’s my take.
I have heard tales of family members experimenting with their sexuality. From kissing cousins to measuring each other penis, it’s not that abnormal when you’re young and don’t know any better.
And when you know better you do better.
Plucking and polishing a penis from your family tree unknowingly is one thing. And then telling everyone about it is another. It goes to show you that we never know the people we have sex with. Adam4Adam isn’t exactly so you should get a pass.
I can only imagine the awkwardness during Christmas dinner. I hope you would be staring at the glazed ham instead. And stuffing your mouth with only stuffing. A year and a half is a long time to be sucking the same dick.
Don’t ask and definitely don’t tell.
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